Anjalee Deepa

A Working Parent's Journey

Anjalee believes that motherhood can be the most rewarding job on the planet, but it can also be the hardest.

The mid-twenties is not a long time in this world, and though the rush of a receding carefree youth does expose one to a wide spectrum of experiences, the enriching ones are few and far in between. Especially if one has grown up in a protective, loving family environment. So, when I sat down to write this, there was no confusion in my mind, because I am sharing with you this unforgettable magical experience in life called motherhood and my journey as a working parent. Nine months went just like that. Now that I sit back and think, this was the most beautiful episode in my life. Despite the critical project schedules, the support from the family, special mention to my husband and parents who were always with me throughout the pregnancy saga.

Finally, the moment arrived; our little bundle of joy, my princess arrived after the long wait and anticipation. I was lying back on to my mother with my baby in my arms, I felt a lump in my throat, and tears welled up in my eyes. Those were the tears of happiness. I was now in the privileged category of ‘mother,’ the person who gave birth to you, who has kept aside her exhaustion, fatigue just to feed you and keep you happy always. The privilege comes with different responsibilities.

Of course, the post pregnancy term was tiring physically, mentally, emotionally, the sleepless nights, and countless diapers. Having grown up in a relative insulation from the vagaries of life, I did feel a sudden ruckus in life. Finally, the time had come to return to work. How could I leave my six-month-old baby tomorrow and go back to work? However, whenever I was in doubt, my husband told me that everyone does it and we could do it too.

I discussed the topic with few colleagues who were in the same state. The first thing they told me was that they had the same doubts. Then they described frankly the compromises they made - both at work and in raising their children - to perform the proverbial balancing act of working motherhood. I always looked up to my mother who managed her career beautifully and built a wonderful relationship with the family.

Doing what works for you, for your child and your family to stay happy and connected. Decide what is most important and do that. If possible, delegate what you can to others in the family. In addition, do not worry about the rest.

Most of all, I resolved to start counting my own blessings and be thankful to God for so many of those little things that we normally take for granted. A good job, a happy and secure family environment, loving husband, parents, in-laws etc. I hope and pray that I am able to carry through and take forward my job and my family.

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